When a new year begins we always talk about making resolutions and starting or stopping some habits. As adults we promise ourselves that this is the year we’re going to lose those extra ten pounds, stop smoking, get out of debt, make better choices, or fix a broken relationship. Young people might see the new year as an opportunity to start over in certain areas of their lives, to exercise more, to make straight A’s, or to get along better with their parents. With resolution-making on our minds, the beginning of 2018 is a great time to think about the commitments we make and consider whether or not we are choosing well.
Commitments say a lot about who we are. Decisions to add or discard habits speak to things that are important to us—health, wholeness, family, relationships, and so forth. When we choose to make commitments, we test ourselves to see if we can be true to our word.
The first of the year is also a great time to think about the whys and the whens of our commitments. Sometimes we over commit or over promise and find ourselves in over our heads. Youth especially should consider the following: Can I do well in basketball, debate, drama, get good grades, and still have quality rest and family time—all at the same time? So maybe, instead of a long list of new resolutions or promises this year, we can just resolve to make the best possible choices in our commitments and learn to let each “yes” be yes and each “no” be no.
Making Good Choices/Seek God First
The starting point for choosing well is to examine our current commitments. Begin by asking: Are my choices meaningful and worthy of my time and effort, or do they just add pressure and expectations? We all live with so much pressure and expectation that we don’t need the added burden of commitments that steal the joy from our daily lives.
A sure way to choose well is to seek first the kingdom of God. When we are in constant communion with God, we are more in tune with our capacity and are able to say yes or no at the right time. In the coming year we will encounter plenty of opportunities that sound too good to pass up. But we can make good decisions by saying yes to commitments that are life-giving and saying no to the things that, although fun, only add busyness and pressure to the daily routine. This year challenge yourself to make just one resolution—to say yes to life-giving things and no to life-draining things.